I am going to be honest and say that this party caused a lot of contention between Jesikah and I, and in the end, I almost felt like cancelling the whole thing. First of all, I didn't really like the theme. While I liked the Hunger Game books and movie, it just seemed wrong to have it as a teenage girl's party theme. I couldn't help but think that in the book, kids this age were sent out to kill each other. It just seemed wrong to me somehow, especially when she wanted to divide them up into districts. I guess I was probably overthinking it, but I was afraid other parents might too. But this was just a small part of the contention. I told her just to make it fun and not too much like the book.
The rest of the contention had to do with the cake mostly. She wanted a fondant cake of a certain size, type, style, layers, etc, etc, etc. I didn't know how to make that type of cake and given my very sick condition, barely felt like making a cake at all. So she said she would do it herself as long as I bought everything.
Everything was tough because Jesikah wanted to plan everything herself, but then she was mad at me because she felt like I wasn't doing MY part and that I didn't care about her. It was just tough because she knew what she wanted and whatever I did, I was going to do wrong. Jesikah is a child who wants things done EXACTLY how she wants them done and at the EXACT time. It didn't help that I was having bad morning sickness during this time either. For example, on the day she wanted to deliver the invitations, she came up to my room (which I was laying in bed cause I had morning sickness so bad) and said, "Come on, let's go. We have to deliver the invitations today or it will be too late." At that time it was 2 weeks before her party. I told her I didn't feel well and that 10 days would be sufficient time. She was SO upset and thought no one would be coming to her party now because it would be TOO late. I think we got in something like 3 more arguments that day because I wouldn't deliver the invitations that day. Anyway, the whole contentious climate of any conversation about the party made me not want any part of it.
I told her she could make the cake exactly how she wanted it, I would help where I could, but she would be mainly on her own. We went to the store and got everything she needed. Then, the night before the party I helped her make the fondant according to the recipe she had gotten from a previous young women leader who taught her how to make cakes. It amazingly turned out very well. She had also borrowed cake pans (a small and a large) from the same lady. She wanted two layers of the large size with two layers of the small size on top.
I was tired so I went to bed, and I let her make the cakes. They were just from a mix, but she wanted it marbled, so she was mixing part of a chocolate cake mix into the white and stirring it to make it marbled. Anyway, she was up late and Eric was still up watching a show on TV when she tried to take her large cake out of the pan and it broke into fist size pieces. (See picture below) I was asleep, but I asked Eric if she broke down and started crying. He said, "Amazingly no"
She just said, "Well, I have enough batter to make two more cakes in the 9 inch size, so that will have to do." I was really proud of her for coming up with a solution to her problem instead of losing it or giving up hope.
Bad part was, when she was done, the kitchen was a disaster area!! Eric took pictures to document. Eric said it was worse than he has ever seen it. Anyway, I have to mention my sweet husband here for cleaning up all the kitchen and dishes before he came to bed. I think it took him a couple of hours and he didn't come to bed until very late. There is no way we would have been able to pull everything together for the party that next morning by 10am if it wasn't for him!! I love that man! He always comes through for me when I need him.
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| Large cake in pieces |
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| Rose mints she made and letters of her name she made out of fondant |
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| There was a problem the morning of the party when she realized that she hadn't put the food coloring in the fondant and she wanted it pink. I told her to just do it white, it would still look good, but she is a determined little girl, so she starting kneading the food coloring into the dough herself and it is STIFF. When she started getting very frustrated because she could see she couldn't do it and wouldn't have enough time, Eric came to her rescue. He kneaded the rest of the color into the rest of the fondant! Thank heavens for him or the cake would have been a disaster! He was the only one strong enough to knead the fondant. |
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| He helped her roll it out and put it over the cakes |
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| Eric is very artistic and precise when it comes to things like this. He did a great job! |
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| Look how perfect that cake looks. |
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| The top layer I helped her with because Eric had to take Alex to a soccer game. As you can see, it isn't as perfect. We had a few wrinkles, but not bad for our first try with fondant. |
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| Jesikah had made makeup out of fondant because she wanted her cake decorated with makeup and pearls. She also made those balls ahead of time and painted them with some kind of pearl stuff. |
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| We added the roses to go with the Hunger Games theme |
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| All in all, it turned out pretty nice, and she was very happy. |
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| Rose mints |
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| While they worked on the cake, I set the table, cleaned, and decorated |
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| She wanted a fancy dinner style party like they had in the Hunger Games book while they were at the Capitol. |
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| But first, they had to do their hair and makeup like the crazy capitol people. |
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| They had fun making themselves up |
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| Makayla is putting fake lashes on Andrea. Nearly all the girls put on fake lashes. |
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| The party group after they were fixed up. |
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| Again |
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| A few at a time |
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| Being crazy capitol people |
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| Makayla didn't want to paint her face or do crazy hair since she was going to a dance later, so they painted her leg. |
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| The capitol feast |
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| Everybody loved the food! It was Subway sandwiches with some sides, but I tried to make it look fancy. |
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| Everyone eating. They had fancy drinks with Sprite and lime and cherries with cherry juice. |
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| Jarem and Tessa felt pretty lucky that two girls didn't show up, so they still got to share in the spoils (in the kitchen) |
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| Jesikah opening her presents |
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| She got lots of Hunger Games stuff |
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| And lots of creative Hunger Games wrapping too. |
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| This is a little phone case/wallet |
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| Wrapped in a Hunger Games bag |
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| Hunger Games journal |
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| Fixing her fake lash |
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| Bath and Body Works shower gel. I think she is laughing cause it is called Dark Kiss. |
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This is Jesikah's friend, Yuklin, holding her gift. Look how fancy the bag and the wrapping with the mockingjay and all.
Inside Yuklin's gift: A tracker jacker and a bunch of bit-o-honey's. What a clever idea!
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Here are some more fondant things that we couldn't use on the cake either. She wanted the cake to reflect her interests so she made this paint palette, brush, and paint splotches.
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| We weren't able to use these letters on the cake because we didn't have enough space once the cake was downsized. |
After the presents were opened, they all had cake and ice cream. Then they washed off their makeup and headed downstairs to watch the Hunger Games movie (which had just come out on video that day and I had to go to Wal-Mart early to pick up). Only a few girls were left by the end of the movie because several had to leave early.
All in all, the party was a success and I am glad we did it. But even more, I was happy to have it finished too.
After the party, I took Jesikah and some of her friends up to a stake dance in Hopkinsville (which was her first dance since she just turned 14). I stayed around for a little while to watch. Jesikah had been nervous that no one would ask her to dance and one of her friends said that maybe Alex would. Jesikah said, "Alex would NEVER ask me to dance." But, to everyone's complete surprise,
Alex came and asked her to dance on the FIRST dance. I was so surprised and happy that, of course, I started to cry! In fact, I had to walk outside for a little bit to get composed since I didn't want to embarrass them. It was the sweetest thing. Eric and I ended up staying for most of the dance. Later on when there was a girl's choice dance, Jesikah went and asked Eric to dance. It was very sweet. It was an awesome night and made me realize that my teenagers really do have a sweet and tender side, even when they don't always show it. It was great to spend a night there with them. In the end, Jesikah said that her favorite dance of the night was her dance with Alex.
